Autism 101: Hating Your Autistic Child

Yay for daddies who get it

Ray Hemachandra @ Golden Moon Publishing

My son Nicholas, October 2014My son Nicholas yesterday, October 2014

Full title and full disclosure: Autism 101: hating your autistic child … and teaching her or him self-loathing.

Twice in the past week I’ve seen “I love my child, but I hate autism” posts by parents of autistics. One was written by a real-life friend I respect greatly, and one was by a Facebook friend I’ve never met.

It’s not that this language is rare. Somewhat shockingly to me, despite much good work by many autistic adults and autism professionals, it is a language still common to many of the largest autism organizations and associations. It is a language still common to many autism parents. It is a language still common to media and general society.

It is, indeed, a language and idea most common and base.

Most times I wince, shudder, and keep moving, because it happens so often and it is so heartbreaking…

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room to heal

Well said

a diary of a mom

I was asked to write something for the I Am Not Kelli Stapleton flash blog. The purpose of the flash blog is to stand together in support of the premise that disabled lives matter.

And so I wrote.

I cried as I typed.

I hated what I’d written.

I began again.

And then yet again still.

Until, one word at a time, I deleted it all.

Because it simply didn’t feel right.

Finally, after days of typing and deleting, I’ve decided that this is what, and all, I want to say.

I don’t want to talk about this anymore. I just don’t. It hurts too much.

It hurts me, it hurts you, it hurts our community and most of all, it hurts the beautiful girl in the center of it all, Issy.

Issy deserves to be able to move on in as much peace as one can after such horror.


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